Relationship Advice from OnlineBootyCall.com

A friend of mine hit me up about this site. Now I'm an open minded individual. I don't knock something until I try it. At least I make an effort not to. But I went ahead and created an account. I needed to generate some romance "buzz" so I went for it. But after a week I am so ready to delete this account and return my life back to normal.

Here are just a few things I learned from OnlineBootyCall.com that I really already knew.

1. The Men Here Are Fishing. And woe to the women that take the bait and succumb to the booty call. This is a "Fishing" site, no doubt. They use their lines and words as the bait. I can imagine them saying... "Hmm what can I say to her to get her here at this hotel, parked car, park, her house, for quick sex?" If you are seeking a wholesome relationship, then why bother getting entangled in these lines? You already know the deal.

2. Men Crave Visual Stimulation. I had one picture on my profile. It showed mostly my face. But guys kept hitting me up asking for more. A full body shot. An ass shot. So I'm like, okay. I put up a full body shot. Then they would hit me up with compliments and asking for more pictures. Really?!?! What for? So you can ask for more, and more, and more? Where is the limit? Most guys who are out here sporting don't have a limit... they will never be satisfied until they die.

3. Best Defense A Woman Can Have Is Her Own Agenda. The game is everywhere. It has been and it will always be. But a woman uses her own agenda, standards, as a guide to get her through this watering hole to a place where she can enjoy life with someone who values her essence. Ladies if he doesn't respect you, then he won't take you to that relationship place that you are looking for. He just won't care. You'll just be another face in his Yearbook of Booty Calls.

I suggest you go see that new Steve Harvey move, Think Like A Man. It is a great eyeopener to the game of sports fishing (watch the movie to understand that last line *wink)!

Suggested Resources:
Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man
A Gold Digger's Guide: How to Get What You Want Without Giving It Up
Straight Talk, No Chaser
Steve Harvey On Playing Hard To Get Video

Do it Yourself Eyebrow Shaping

I had been thinking about creating a "how to" tutorial for shaping eyebrows. Years ago I watched my stylist cut my eyebrows, then I was like, I really can do this too. It saved me a lot of time and a few bucks while doing it myself. Yeah starting out I got nicked but now I can step out the house "fresh to def" whenever...

The Lily Pad... My Escape From Life

I've moved to Atlanta. I needed a new environment. I needed a new wind. I've been here for 4 months. Most of my time has been dedicated to me working hard and trying to reestablish myself, ya know, get back on your feet and become independent again. So now I'm back in my own spot "the Lily Pad" (my bachelorette pad). And I won't even fake the funk... things are really tight for me. Even though I have two really great jobs, one is a contract job with great pay, but it is not a guaranteed job, and the other doesn't pay well, but it has a lot of great perks and lets me meet new people. So for now I'm content.

One thing I've been most concerned about is my home environment. I believe that your environment is what gives you the best energy to perform in life. Think about it, besides work, this is the place where you will spend most of your time. It houses your most sacred possessions. My place is like my fortress. If I want to get away from the world, this would be the place. So I decided, if that is the case, I want my environment to reflect my style and to reinforce who I am as a person. I don't just want to have stuff in my home, I want it all to mean something to me. And if I happen to invite anyone over, they can get a feeling of who I am just by entering the room.

I am balling out on a budget right now so I will take my time getting my place right. I ended up recycling ferns from an arrangement I made while in Florida and using them in two free standing sconces. I put the end result in my bathroom and kitchen. I hung some old motivational decor above my kitchen sink and now I am looking for an exotic rug and another really great piece of artwork to put in my front room.

One thing I am most grateful for is not getting rid of my belongings in Florida. Keeping things like curtains, furniture, stainless steel trash cans, dishes, and other misc items made it easy for me to settle into my new spot really quick. I got rid of a few things but overall, I saved so much money just by bringing all my things with me.

Time To Regroup and Refocus...I'm so Uber Fat

I woke up and thanked God for life this morning..

I had a great weekend. After I counted up what I was grateful for it became easy to overlook my ever ending car troubles. I met up with a plus sized group here in Atlanta recently. They seem like really cool people. I would have loved to join their group as a plus sized woman, but when I looked at the group picture they posted from the meet up we had, I had to take a second glance.

There I was on the picture... I looked uber fat. Granted it was a plus sized group, but DAYUM!!!! I have never been so disgusted at myself. Now don't get it twisted, I love myself and all my poundage... but there comes a time when everyone must realize... really... are you healthy... are you happy?? And as of right now... I am not... so that only means one thing... back to the gym I go!!!

And I can't really get mad at myself. I did just make an incredible move and had to figure my way around the city pretty much by myself with few resources, but now that I am a little more stable, I'm ready to get back on track with my exercise regimen and work to tighten up my beautiful big boned curves.... size 8 here I come!!! lol... But I'll still be big boned...

My Self Esteem Needs Constant Maintenance... Even Today

I kinda sorta go back and forth with the whole idea of this blog. Part of me wants to use this as a tool to speak positive and optimism over my life and the things I want to accomplish. But then I want to keep it real and be upfront about myself and how I feel. I'm torn... well whatever...

Last time I checked I was about 240 something pounds. I'm not proud of that weight. I'm not proud that I rock a size 18 at 5'2. It seems that I am just not able to control my weight. I look at other smaller people and wish I could have that gene that keeps people from packing on the weight.. I mean I believe there is such a gene... right?!?!

But one thing I can say is that I have accepted my size and the arduous task that I must work extra hard to control my weight. This does weigh heavy on my self esteem. I think the worst feeling that attributes to the wavering self gratitude is the fact that I want to get to a smaller size so bad, but I just can't seem to "get it" like most people. I haven't mastered the art of weight maintenance like most everyone else. And that makes me feel like people are looking at me and saying, "Wow, she has no self discipline". I care a lot what others think because they do pass judgment based off of personal appearance.

As a part of my life goals I have written goals in order to keep my self esteem from becoming low. In addition to working out and eating right I have also included a few objectives to help me in the personal appearance department.

#1--Everytime I get my paycheck I have to buy myself 2 outfits.

So I have learned that when you look great, you feel great. It took a while to understand what types of clothes flatter my figure well, but once I got the general science down, shopping became fun. Trying different pieces and style variations really stirred up an appreciation for myself. Also it is important for me to stay with current trends and adapt them to my personal style. I've realized in order for me to remain competitive with my peers I need to keep my wardrobe fresh and updated. Staying relevant with today's trends go a long way when constantly meeting new people. People judge you by what you look like. I've realized that an unkempt appearance can be an obstacle while making new friends and establishing a business rapport with new clients. I've decided to never let my personal appearance be the first roadblock to success.

#2--Everytime I get my paycheck I have to get the dawgs all pretty.

And by dawgs I mean the toes. There is something to say about getting your feet done and then showing them off in sandals. It makes me feel pretty. Its like by taking time to do something for me, I instantly feel important, and feel I require special handling. This is an incredible feeling.

#3--KEEP MY HAIR DONE!!!

My hair doesn't have to be Hollywood Glam, but it definitely has to be presentable. I believe the easiest thing to do to make you look a million bucks is to get a hairstlye that looks great. Don't go out with your hair in ponytails all the time. It works with some looks, but with others it looks lazy. I realized that a nice updoo with jeans and a simple black tee can make you look fab instantly. Just think about it and try it out.

Well these tips work for me... I'm always looking for simple ways to just boost my esteem a little. I swear, once I stopped looking to everyone else to make me happy and started paying attention to what I looked like and how I enjoyed my time, life started becoming a little more exciting!!

MUAH!!! Kisses to the wind... someone will bring em back!

My Cheetah Lingerie in the Workplace

Today was my first day at work in the great city of "Atlanta". And nobody knew the secret of why I felt so sexy and domineering today... I believe it had everything to do with my cheetah camisole set. Under my business attire the whole safari jungle was lurking beneath ready to pounce on the poor wretched soul that dared to tempt me... Mmmmm Hmmmm...

Deep Wave Quick Weave Tutorial

So I don't think most of you all know about me, but when it comes to hair, I am a WEAVE-A-HOLIC!!! I have been doing my own weaving styles since I was in high school. But what I love most is the quick weave techniques where you can create a totally new hairstyle in about an hour or less, depending on how complex you want it. I've done a few tutorials myself after I was inspired by many of the other great Quick Weave Divas on Youtube.

This tutorial is kinda simple. It only involves one type of hair. I honestly love it, but hey, I haven't had too many hairstyles that I didn't like. Enjoy!!